Hecatia Posted November 6, 2018 Share Posted November 6, 2018 One week ago, I broke with a girl after one year of relationship. But the reason why it happened was not because of some love triangle or messed up moment but it was because this girl was emotionally unstable with herself and I ultimately got emotionally and physiologically tired. At first she was fine and didn't show any sign of depression or anything, but then, over the course of the months, she started to depend too much on me to feel better. Like, she tried to find anything so I could compliment her more than needed. Somehow she suddenly got mad because I didn't do anything else with a drawing that she gave me than having it framed in my desktop, I even made the effort to find a beautiful frame for it! She got really angry after I told her that I have Dyscalculia and I tend to forget any kind of number related thing, like if I invented that as an excuse and to be fair, the condition is barely known but you can't just get angry because you don't know about something! Before the breakup, she was smiling and doing things that she barely did because of her previous mood and opinion about herself, but I was lacking energy, the same energy that people would use to recognize me... She absorbed all of my happiness, all of my shine! So after talking with my parents (because they noticed this lack of energy too) and thinking about myself, I decided to end the relationship. She had to understand that she can't depend on a person to be happy and I can't drain myself to make another person happy. Sadly, she would not understand because of her behavior, so the only solution was to end it. After the day I told her everything, I put everything that reminded me of her in a box and I just greet her without any grudge or anything like that. Now I feel more like myself again, with energy that everyone likes to see and that I enjoy to have. Hell, I even started to draw and practice voices again (Something that she was so ashamed of) like old times! I even don't feel scared of not answering the phone messages because that person gets desperate and feels like I'm not paying attention. Did you ever got into something like this? :o Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johann Posted November 6, 2018 Share Posted November 6, 2018 Yeah definitely, and it's a real opener that it was an unhealthy relationship. Feeling like you can't be yourself is the worst, and it's best to end those relationships, quit those jobs, etc Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DarthR0xas Posted November 6, 2018 Share Posted November 6, 2018 You see that's why I don't get into relationships. Can't get into an unhealthy relationship if you don't have any chance at a relationship due to your ever present fear of rejection. That got too real for a moment, let me liven back up a bit. Congrats on getting out of something that was hurting you, and it's commendable that you're able to look beyond such a relationship with no grudge. I know if I was in your situation I'd probably be sick of the girl and have a bit of contempt left over. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jotari Posted November 6, 2018 Share Posted November 6, 2018 Let's hope the story ends here and instead of turning into one of those crazy ex narratives. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coldhand25 Posted November 6, 2018 Share Posted November 6, 2018 Wasn't she a bit narcissistic? It definitely feels like she was, reading you post, in which case the best thing you've done is to break up with her. Reading about narcissistic relationships, people often say it's unhealthy. Personally I've never been in such a relationship, so I can't tell for sure, but I think it's the best for both of you. Maybe not for her, but definitely for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hecatia Posted November 6, 2018 Author Share Posted November 6, 2018 6 hours ago, DarthR0xas said: Congrats on getting out of something that was hurting you, and it's commendable that you're able to look beyond such a relationship with no grudge. I know if I was in your situation I'd probably be sick of the girl and have a bit of contempt left over. I'm too friendly to see myself holding a grudge... Except if that person made me reeeeeeally angry, like my two neighboors. 3 hours ago, Jotari said: Let's hope the story ends here and instead of turning into one of those crazy ex narratives. Let's hope not! Those stories are stressful and could be even more stressful living in one. 1 hour ago, coldhand25 said: I think it's the best for both of you. Maybe not for her, Exactly! Maybe she will never understand and somehow a bit of... Something will blind her, but I did this to be better with myself, to recover my bright and cheerful myself back! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rose482 Posted November 6, 2018 Share Posted November 6, 2018 Awww Critical </3 I'm sorry, but I do think you did the right thing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jotari Posted November 6, 2018 Share Posted November 6, 2018 2 hours ago, coldhand25 said: Wasn't she a bit narcissistic? It definitely feels like she was, reading you post, in which case the best thing you've done is to break up with her. Reading about narcissistic relationships, people often say it's unhealthy. Personally I've never been in such a relationship, so I can't tell for sure, but I think it's the best for both of you. Maybe not for her, but definitely for you. From the sounds of it (which is admittedly one sided) it's probably better for her too. Not healthy for all of your happiness to derive from just one source. Especially one that's growing less and less willing to fulfill that role. 17 minutes ago, 1% Critical Hit said: I'm too friendly to see myself holding a grudge... Except if that person made me reeeeeeally angry, like my two neighboors. Let's hope not! Those stories are stressful and could be even more stressful living in one. Exactly! Maybe she will never understand and somehow a bit of... Something will blind her, but I did this to be better with myself, to recover my bright and cheerful myself back! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sidereal Wraith Posted November 6, 2018 Share Posted November 6, 2018 (edited) 11 hours ago, 1% Critical Hit said: Did you ever got into something like this? :o No, but the doctors are emphatic that I suffer from something called 'Stockholm Syndrome', but then again what the hell do they know? Am I right fellas? Edited November 6, 2018 by Wraith Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hecatia Posted November 7, 2018 Author Share Posted November 7, 2018 12 hours ago, Rose482 said: Awww Critical </3 I'm sorry, but I do think you did the right thing. It's alrighty, Rose c: I'm getting better after this ;D @Jotari That video made me fall from my chair! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hanes Posted November 7, 2018 Share Posted November 7, 2018 I don't know what to say but I just hope everything goes well for ya. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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